Hello There, Guest!
View New Posts   View Today's Posts

Education options, help me think it through.. - Page: 1


  • 0 Vote(s) - 0 Average


04-08-2012, 05:23 PM #1
kiwimummy
Junior Member
**
Posts: 6 Threads:6 Joined: Apr 2011 Reputation: 0

Education options, help me think it through..
I am having such trouble making a firm decision about what is best for us at the moment, so I thought maybe I could bounce around thoughts with you lovely ladies and try to clarify what I am feeling about our options....

DS is 5.5yrs, never been to school so far. We aren't one of those families that always knew homeschooling was for us, in fact we always thought our kids would go to school. But due to a multitude of factors, we opted for homeschooling this year. The main reasons were probably having moved around a lot and possibly more, and not wanting him to be re-settling into many places, his personality being very sensitive and an introvert and not enjoying large groups of kids, and his academic needs - he is very bright and I felt we needed the right school, who would recognise it and allow him to do his own thing and follow his interests, and thought it may be hard to find that.

So... I started reading and researching and liked everything I read about HSing and we got into it. We aren't rigidly following a cirriculum and it is low pressure. We love the flexibility to go on trips and take days off and I love having both kids play together so much.

But, it is really hard. I'm not sure I'm the best teacher for him. I find it frustrating and, to my disappointment, I do snap and yell at him sometimes. So I find myself wondering if he would be better at school.
He has started to express interest in going to school and I think in many ways he would enjoy it. He's also more emotionally resilient now than he was a year ago. We are starting to find it hard to find friends and his best friend will start school next year. We have made efforts to join HS things, but they are infrequent and spread far geographically.

But I reeeeeallly can't decide!! I am back and forth with pros and cons in my mind and truely cannot weigh one or other as a better option. I think they both could potentially work. If he does go to school, it's probably the local state school (maybe a private school if a place came up, he is on the waiting list. Steiner etc are out as the waitlists are impossibly long). If I keep HSing, I may need to adapt to a more unschooly approach to work best with him, which will be a challenge.

Any wisdom or experience to share with me?? Thanks for any thoughts you have x


04-08-2012, 11:13 PM #2
Guest
Unregistered
 

Education options, help me think it through..
Hi,

Jut running through but thought I would quickly ask the obvious question have you asked him what he would prefer? (you probably have but thought I would chuck it out there Smile)
You can always try school and pull him out if he doesnt flourish....???
What do you think about unschooling? Would that be an option?
Would bringing in an external tutor, say once a week, help to ease some of your tension so its not so full on for you?

Im probably just adding to your confusion sorry Smile


05-08-2012, 04:33 PM #3
Guest
Unregistered
 

Education options, help me think it through..
Homeschooling isn't for everyone so whichever choice you make don't beat yourself up about it :mrgreen

I'm struggling with these questions and DS is only 3!

It can be an intense learning situation when it is just you and one child and I think the beautiful thing about homeschooling is that there are so many approaches (including unschooling) and curriculums out there now you can try and search out one that fits you and your child.

We moved a lot as kids. I went to five primary schools. I'm university educated and think I'm fairly emotionally okay (just don't ask my DH, ok? :2lol). From my experience as a child and as a primary teacher working with the early years of primary, as long as you are providing a stable and happy home life your child is already ahead of the game, even if you are moving around.

I would suggest you visit the schools in your area and get an idea of what they are like and what your options are. Have your questions written down. Don't be afraid to discuss all your concerns with the principal. In my experience the principal sets the tone of the school so their views are important to know. Consider a smaller school, sometimes they have a better sense of community and encourage family involvement. If you decide to go down the path of formal schooling, work with your DS's teacher to integrate him into the classroom. And like Stargaze said, you can always pull him out again if it's not working for you or him.

The best thing you can do is arm yourself with as much info as you can to make the best choice you can. And nothing is final. You can pull your son out of school and continue homeschooling if school isn't working for him. You can decide to keep homeschooling and try school later (or not at all!).

Not sure if I've helped at all :2lol

Good luck with your decision, let us know how you go..

GGx


05-08-2012, 08:17 PM #4
Guest
Unregistered
 

Education options, help me think it through..
Thank you both Smile

Stargaze, if I ask him he usually says homeschooling is his preference, but he will also often say things like "when I go to school..." (something positive, like he likes the idea). School is an unknown, so it's not surprising he says homeschooling.

I have visited lots of schools already. We are moving again though, so the options change yet again! (which is partly why the decision making came to the forefront again). Am going to visit the new local school this week, so that will really impact the decision. If it's terrible then this discussion is fairly pointless!! :lol But I don't think it will be, it seems quite good from what I know so far.

A smaller school would be great, but unfortunately there are none near where we are.

GG, thanks for the feedback on moving around lots. That is really helpful to hear, as this is the opposite to my childhood. I lived in the same street for my first 10yrs and even after that didn't move far. I knew all the neighbourhood kids and never had to change schools. I really long for that stability for my kids, but it wasn't the way life worked out. This will be the 7th house DS has lived in and he's only five! And most of our moves have been to new cities and countries. Anyway, we are due for a bit of staying put now which is great Smile

Anymore thoughts are welcome, and I will continue to ponder...


07-08-2012, 08:03 AM #5
Guest
Unregistered
 

Education options, help me think it through..
Hi Kiwimummy : )

On our journey i have learned that there are a multitude of different learning scenarios & all of them have merit. Whats more is my perception of growing up going to big school going to highschool & then onto tafe/ uni has altered dramatically....its such a slim view of 'education'. I now feel that moving through the different scenarios of learning is actually quite essential for kiddos...we go for what works at the time & are now accepting that as our children grow & change so does what they want & need in their learning.
Our teen is about to come back to homeschooling, but that will also include some work during the week too.
Like many others we started out with an amazing curriculum & shelved in a few weeks in, opting for a more interest/ projects based flow, i guess you could call it unschooling, though we choose to do some things 'by the book', like math. Its quite easy to meet the required learning outcomes as kids just learn, about anything, dont ever fear unschooling : ) I think its actually easier than 'teaching' your kids. Oddly enough it was when i realised i didnt have to 'teach' my child that all the stress fell away & we found our earning groove. Your son is also very young so you have the time to allow yourself the time to give thinsg a shot at home, then if it doesnt work for you he might go off to school.
One thing i do know with homeschooling is that you do need to put the effort in to go to the gatherings, organised events etc & sometimes you do have to drive a fair way if you dont live in an area with a large HS community. Its not as easy as sending your kids to school & not all parents can do it (though i feel most could if they gave it a shot, its very different to what you perceive it to be before you start).

Anyway i say dont stress it, go with what works for you all until it no longer works for you then make a change.

ps: as for friends & socialising, i have long believed that the putting kids in a room with 25 other kids who posses the same social skills doesnt actually constitute a healthy or realistic social learning environment...how much can 5 year olds teach each other about socialising Wink Oddly enough our child went back to school for social reasons & is now leaving school again due to social reasons lol the grass inst greener on he other side after all :mrgreen I am glad his social experiences & encounters will now be far broader & more reflective of the world we live in.


08-08-2012, 12:50 AM #6
Guest
Unregistered
 

Education options, help me think it through..
I'm sorry your currently having a tough time with the decision making process... Shire mum has some amazingly wise words as always.

We have recently been leaning much closer towards unschooling ourselves also and finding it so much more relaxing and much easier for both of us. Ds is still young but I am finding ways to cover a broad range of topics and subjects in much more fun and interesting ways. Socially we see ALOT of people since our move, yet none of them are ds's age and he seems to love it even more so.

We do find the same as shire mum has mentioned, that some days we travel a long way to take part in exursions, play dates, outings and seeking other homeschoolers. Some days we will drive up to 5 or 6 hours (total) for meets if it's something special.

It also really depends on the area you live, some have an abundance of homeschoolers and others are really hard to find...there is also the option of joining a schools homeschool program which means he stays at home but joins the school for exursions, sports days etc? Smile

good luck in your decision making process Smile. Ds is still young enough to trial some different alternatives Smile.


10-08-2012, 12:45 PM #7
Guest
Unregistered
 

Education options, help me think it through..
Travel will factor in for both choices:
Being ready and travelling to school each early morning
picking up from school at a specified time each aafternoon
travelling to hs events most weeks

Factor in also what deschooling you may need to do if he tries a stint at school but returns to homeschooling.


17-08-2012, 09:59 PM #8
Guest
Unregistered
 

Education options, help me think it through..
Hi,

I'm homeschooling my 5 and 3 year old. There are many different ways to homeschool, and I hear from many long term homeschoolers that initially they start off really rigid with curriculums etc and then let go and relax into it as time goes on. Are you anxious about anything? when you get frustrated and yell is it because you feel worried about something? Homeschooling is a big responsibility and can get very stressful if you think it is your responsibility to teach your child everything you think they SHOULD know.
But maybe start with some simple questions: Do you trust that your children will learn what they need to learn to be successful in life?
Did you have to train your child in order for them to talk and walk?
I believe that children will learn what they need to know because they want to fit into society, it is impossible in our modern society, with parents who are attentive to their child's needs, to have a person go through life and not know how to read and write or count the change in their pockets. By keeping a relaxed and supportive attitude you will be amazed at how your kids will tell you what they NEED to know. My example with maths is this: try and give two children a usually forbidden treat (say chocolate squares) and see if they can figure out how to get their fair share. I laughed when I saw my 5 and 3 year old do this... they are just so clever in working out problems and learning its very natural for them they are just so curious... try to get your child to stop asking why or how with anything, they just don't shut up! My personal experience with my nieces who are at school, is that they learn to shut up and listen to everyone, I hardly ever hear them ask why anymore. From the homeschooling groups I attend I see children constantly asking questions and they aren't afraid to speak up.

We follow a natural learning philosophy. What I enjoy about this is:
* There are no lessons and no teaching plans... our children ask questions about life and we follow them in their interests.
* It really helps me to feel relaxed because learning is so much fun.
* My children are learning concepts really fast because its their personal interest they are following, rather than me enforcing a lesson plan.
* I record in a journal what we have done on occasion, I do this because next year there will be a legal requirement to register, but also I feel happy in reading about my child's progress as time goes on, I realize how much they learn.

It is not for everyone, but it works for us... whatever you decide the most important thing is to maintain a happy relationship with your children, and that might mean sending your kids to school if you feel too stressed, or it may mean changing your homeschooling style.

All the best
Ang


20-08-2012, 03:40 AM #9
Guest
Unregistered
 

Education options, help me think it through..
Thank you Ang for those very wise words Smile


21-05-2013, 01:30 AM #10
Guest
Unregistered
 

Education options, help me think it through..
midang;555807 Wrote:Hi,I'm homeschooling my 5 and 3 year old. There are many different ways to homeschool, and I hear from many long term homeschoolers that initially they start off really rigid with curriculums etc and then let go and relax into it as time goes on. Are you anxious about anything? when you get frustrated and yell is it because you feel worried about something? Homeschooling is a big responsibility and can get very stressful if you think it is your responsibility to teach your child everything you think they SHOULD know. But maybe start with some simple questions: Do you trust that your children will learn what they need to learn to be successful in life?Did you have to train your child in order for them to talk and walk? I believe that children will learn what they need to know because they want to fit into society, it is impossible in our modern society, with parents who are attentive to their child's needs, to have a person go through life and not know how to read and write or count the change in their pockets. By keeping a relaxed and supportive attitude you will be amazed at how your kids will tell you what they NEED to know. My example with maths is this: try and give two children a usually forbidden treat (say chocolate squares) and see if they can figure out how to get their fair share. I laughed when I saw my 5 and 3 year old do this... they are just so clever in working out problems and learning its very natural for them they are just so curious... try to get your child to stop asking why or how with anything, they just don't shut up! My personal experience with my nieces who are at school, is that they learn to shut up and listen to everyone, I hardly ever hear them ask why anymore. From the homeschooling groups I attend I see children constantly asking questions and they aren't afraid to speak up.We follow a natural learning philosophy. What I enjoy about this is:* There are no lessons and no teaching plans... our children ask questions about life and we follow them in their interests.* It really helps me to feel relaxed because learning is so much fun. * My children are learning concepts really fast because its their personal interest they are following, rather than me enforcing a lesson plan.* I record in a journal what we have done on occasion, I do this because next year there will be a legal requirement to register, but also I feel happy in reading about my child's progress as time goes on, I realize how much they learn.It is not for everyone, but it works for us... whatever you decide the most important thing is to maintain a happy relationship with your children, and that might mean sending your kids to school if you feel too stressed, or it may mean changing your homeschooling style. All the bestAng
Nice words. I like your post ang. I would love to see more of these posts from you as this is indeed helpful.





Forum Jump:



Users browsing this thread: 1 Guest(s)