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21-04-2009, 03:31 AM #1
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Home schooling for 14 year old
hi everyone, i have been reading with interest, the comments on home schooling. i have an almost 14 year daughter who is hell bent on mucking the system - she 'wants to be expelled from school' because one girl is giving her grief on a daily basis. i have researched on the internet and found what i need for hs in qld, but what i'd like is some comments from other parents - mums - who have home schooled from qld year 9 and up. was the transition from mainstream high school to home school successful for both teenager and mum? i have to give up work to do this, but i can always continue my work afterhours. i figure the kid needs her education more than i need to work.Confusedhrug any comments would be appreciated. thanksBig Grin


21-04-2009, 11:21 AM #2
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Hi Meri, and welcome to NP. It sounds like your daughter is having a really nasty time.

My children are a long way off, but I just wanted to say hi.


21-04-2009, 06:08 PM #3
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I did home schooling during year 9. My mum was a believer that one school does not suit everybody. My sister only went to one school during high school and she did really well through this school. My brother and I hated it, both for different reasons. My brother went on to change schools two times. All three schools didn't go well for him and he decided that school wasn't for him and went on to study at TAFE. This seemed to go well with him.

I changed schools three times during my high school and home schooling was part of that change. In year 9 I studied at home while my mum went to work and when she came home she helped me study a bit. I had a time table and she could tell if I didn't stick to it. She is a primary school and high school trained teacher which was perfect for me because I was doing a bit of both (I had missed out on some things from primary school). I visited other people who were doing home schooling with me and this helped. We were at different levels but she was able to help me with my stuff.

I did leave home schooling though. I found a different school that was better for me and it really helped me achieve more than the other schools I went to.

Home schooling is good for building up things that have been missed during other schools and the one on one teacher did help. I did become fairly lonely though. When I was 14/15 I always wanted to be around other people and I found it hard to not get that. I think that age group is the most worried about not having friends. That was the hardest part for me.

Good luck with what you decide to do.


21-04-2009, 06:16 PM #4
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Hi Meri
I would suggest that you get in touch with other home educators in your area.
I searched on "home education groups Queensland" and came up with a bunch of links, of which [URL="http://homeschooling.gomilpitas.com/regional/Queensland.htm"]this [/URL]looks to give a stack of further leads. Note that when you take your daughter out of school, she may benefit a great deal from "deschooling" for a bit to get the mucking up out of her system. Good luck with it - and I am sure that both of you will gain from it :-)


21-04-2009, 10:54 PM #5
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I second getting in touch with other home educators in your area. You need a good real life network!

My children are home educated, but are younger, so I don't have any advice for teens or coming out of school. I do think that school is one of the worst places for a teenager though. Have you read any John Taylor Gatto? He taught at a new york high school for many years, and well worth reading/watching (search him on youtube).


28-04-2009, 08:48 PM #6
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thanks all for your feedback. each day just gets worse - she was busted at school on monday for smoking and now refuses to go back to school until i give her laptop back - removing the laptap was the consequence for smoking at school. she's now trying the blackmail line on me, but i wont give in to her demands. i know the deal for parents who dont enforce school attendance can be pretty servere for the parents but where do i stand when she digs in and refuses to go? at least with home schooling she would get her education but the prob with this kid is she is defiant - she has gladly agreed to be home schooled because she thinks it will be easy, she wont have to do any school work and she can watch tv and play round on the internet all day. i know with home schooling she wont co operate with me and do her school work. to save the hours of verbal abuse directed at me, screamed out at the top of her lungs for all the world to hear, i tend to ignore her when she is in this defiant mood. someone suggested to me that perhaps she has a phobia about school - but i hardly think so. she has just suggested i ditch work today and take her shopping because she 'needs stuff'. where do i go with this defiant behaviour?


28-04-2009, 11:26 PM #7
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If she believes that homeschooling will be easy and she can do nothing then try and ask her teachers at school for a sample of the work she is supposed to be doing. Read through it and research more about it so you know exactly what is envolved. The next time she refuses to go to school get her up at the usual time and go through everything she is supposed to be doing. You can ask your own questions and put in anything you feel would be good. As well as trying to teach her take it as a bonding experience and have a bit of fun. Just try to let her see that it will not just be sitting around doing nothing. I recommend ticking to a schedule for that day.

If she blankly refuses everything you say you could continue to try with her but it may be better to considor home schooling is not the best. (someone else could eleborate on this because I am stuck)

On the other side if she seems to work well and loves spending time with you then home schooling could be something you considor. It could turn out to be something that could benefit the both of you.


12-07-2009, 12:34 PM #8
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Hey there brave mum

I have 10 kids, and I homeschool. Yes, call me a masochist but I wouldn't have it any other way. We're relative newbies.. Only been doing it a year or so. In Jan 08 my partner and I started living together.. I had 6, had been a single mum for a long time, and most of my kids were top of the class, so basically they weren't struggling. Dave brought in his 3, and to put it bluntly.. it was hellish. They brought with them a lot of behavioural problems (their mum is a drug addict, and until a few years ago so was their dad.. now he doesn't even smoke, and is a loving and supportive partner). Their 14 year old boy had the literacy level of a 6 year old, would get suspended regularly, was a bully and was being bullied. Needless to say, his anxiety at being made a fool of at highschool made him a very unhappy, aggressive, horrible kid. When he first met my children, he punched my 6 year old in the nose and made it bleed, and smashed my pregnant daughter on the foot with a guitar.. he called his father a fagg** constantly. I don't think his dad had the resources to deal with it.. I realised the problem was his lack of self-confidence, so we met with the school a few times, offered them funding options, but all they gave him was an hour remedial a week.. Just wasn't good enough. I felt like I was having a breakdown because his behaviour made our home life hell, and my own children were resentful that I had brought these people into their life. So I looked into homeschooling, got excited and pulled out the lot. To make a long story short, this boy is now the opposite, engaged, polite, happy and confident. No longer does he have the pressure of feeling anxious and 'stupid' at school. A year ago, you would NEVER have caught him with a book, but the other day he read 2 books, one 85 pages and one 65 pages, in one day!! What I realised was that, his confidence was more important than academics.. our relationships as a family unit needed to flourish or we would combust. Probably about 3 months after they stopped school, I'd have 7 of them sleeping overnight on the trampoline together.. Now my step-son takes my 6 year old on bike rides nearly every day.. He is an amazing child, and is never disrespectful to me. Please don't underestimate how much this other girl is affecting your daughter.. It truly can have longstanding impact. And if anyone says anything about your daughts missing out on mixing with kids, because it's not at school, my kids would disagree.. Highschool socialisation is about conformity, fitting in, not being too smart, or too stupid, or too ugly, or having the crapiest phone. My kids don't have to deal with that pressure anymore, they can be themselves, and happily so. I have no idea what the legislation is like in QLD regarding homeschooling, because we are fortunate in Victoria in that it is very flexible. I have an inkling that because your daughter can't control her environment at school, she is attempting to appease her confidence by controlling it at home, and hence you. Oh by the way, my children are 20, 18, 16, 14, 12, 12, 11, 7, 6, 7 months (implanon didn't work ughh!! lol).. Good luck. And remember, when things get tough, try not to be too hard on yourself. Given the resources we have at the time, we do the best we can. xx


05-05-2010, 08:06 AM #9
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Yes home schooling creates problem for children to grow freely. Her brain grows in the limitation of home only. She feels uncomfortable when she meets anybody. At the time of interviews she certainly faces the problem. You also contact with other mums.





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